00:00I have both male and female parts, and I found love.
00:03My followers think that I'm going to hell
00:05for marrying an intersex man.
00:07Stay away from me, Satan.
00:09You're soon going to be destroyed.
00:10We're judged because I transitioned six years
00:13into our relationship.
00:14I get things like, are you a male or a female?
00:18Or do you have a P or a V?
00:21I worried about if Chantel would miss being with a woman.
00:26I think that I didn't account for how it was going to feel.
00:31I'm Aylan, and this is my partner, Chantel.
00:34Ready?
00:34Who initiated the first kiss?
00:37Who said I love you first?
00:40Okay, post it.
00:42My content is just bringing awareness to being intersex.
00:47I get a lot like, what's intersex?
00:50Isn't that just trans?
00:51Being transgender is transitioning from either male to female
00:56or female to male.
00:57Being intersex is having characteristics of both male and female biologically.
01:03The most that I get on social media is questions about my genitals,
01:08like what I have.
01:09I get things like, okay, wait, so are you a male or a female?
01:15Do you have a P or a V?
01:21I was raised female.
01:23I was the youngest of nine children.
01:26Since I was like two years old, my mom says that I was telling myself or telling other people
01:32that I was a boy.
01:33My actual diagnosis, I was 29 years old.
01:37I had a kidney issue and the doctor who diagnosed me, he was asking me questions about my genitals.
01:45He was like, I know these questions are weird, but this doesn't happen to people that are in shape.
01:52They figured it was more hormonal.
01:54And that's what really started me looking into getting the proper testing done.
01:59The diagnosis definitely gave me answers.
02:02All the things I've been dealing with my entire life.
02:04I decided to transition because it was better for me medically.
02:09And it just helped me feel more like myself.
02:12And once I started the testosterone, all the medical issues that I had stopped.
02:17I never had any doubts about my relationship.
02:20She really encouraged me to get what I needed done for myself before I even got my diagnosis.
02:27We have been together for 13 years.
02:30I transitioned six years into our relationship.
02:32I've always seen an island like this, so it hasn't really changed too much.
02:40I think he's just gotten sexier.
02:44We met in 2010.
02:47Really, as soon as we locked eyes with each other, I don't know,
02:50I just felt something inside of myself, like a magnet inside of me.
02:54I am bisexual or pansexual.
02:58I just fall in love with the person.
03:00It doesn't really matter what gender they are.
03:02I'd consider myself to be straight because I just love women.
03:07When he told me that he was going to have to either go on testosterone or estrogen,
03:14there wasn't really a question in my mind which route he was going to go.
03:18I honestly never thought that he would transition because of the way that family felt about it.
03:28Him having the courage to finally do it made me really proud of him.
03:34I grew up one of a very strict religion.
03:37I wasn't allowed to date like regular people would unless I was going to get married.
03:43When I was 22 years old, my father was involved in a serious motorcycle accident.
03:51And in the religion, you're not allowed to get blood transfusions.
03:55That whole situation in dealing with my father passing in the hospital made me realize that I
04:03didn't want to be a part of that religion anymore.
04:05When I left, a lot of my family stopped speaking to me.
04:09I started doing videos for social media about what it was like growing up.
04:14I received quite a bit of hate from the religion on that page.
04:19People judge us because I grew up super religious and I married an intersex man.
04:25You're going to be so angry at yourself knowing that you're soon going to be destroyed and it
04:29is nothing that you can do about it. Stay away from me, Satan.
04:34This world has reached levels of wickedness like never before.
04:38A lot of my comments will be really, really long from these people.
04:41I apparently make them very angry.
04:46And this is our literal reactions to these comments.
04:49We're just cracking up laughing.
04:51Now that I'm out, it honestly makes me sad that this is what people believe.
04:59Most of our comments that we get on videos we post together are positive.
05:03Get it, King. I'm here for this.
05:06All I see is a sexy person.
05:08The way you stand grounded in your truth is powerful.
05:10It's giving strength, self-love, and fine as hell all at once.
05:15I think some family members were a little bit unsure.
05:18Babe, can you get the plates for me?
05:20I had a sibling say to me, well, you must have paid a lot of money for that
05:24because I changed your diaper when you were little.
05:26So my sister's going to come over and talk about some of her concerns.
05:29When Aylin first told me that he was intersex, I worried about if Chantel would miss being with a woman.
05:39I would like to ask Chantel if she misses a side of Aylin that no longer is there.
05:46I don't think that we've really had those type of conversations with her before.
05:51Hi.
05:53Hi.
05:55Come on down.
05:57You want to look at some old pictures?
05:59Sure.
06:00You know, we love looking at pictures.
06:03Look at that.
06:04I mean, look at the discomfort in that picture.
06:08Right.
06:09There we go.
06:10Yep.
06:10There you go.
06:11There's an action shot right there.
06:13Did you have any thoughts about when he transitioned about our relationship or reservations about that?
06:20The only thing that I did wonder is if you were going to, you know, be a little bit sad
06:30about...
06:31The changes that he was going to go through and whether I was going to...
06:35Right.
06:36If you were going to miss, you know...
06:38Certain things.
06:39Certain things, yes.
06:40I think for me, because of my sexuality and not really looking at somebody's gender,
06:47it didn't matter to me what decision he made, whether he stayed female or transitioned,
06:54that love wasn't going to change.
06:56You know, when we first met each other, the first thing that attracted me to him were his eyes,
07:02and those have remained the same.
07:04There's just a little bit more facial hair now.
07:07I would say that him going through top surgery, that I think that I didn't account for how it was
07:15going to feel, but I'm really happy with the results and I'm glad that he's happy.
07:21Is it difficult for you to separate the two, like me being your brother now compared to me being your
07:28sister growing up?
07:30Not at all.
07:32I see it as like two different people.
07:35Sometimes it's even hard for me to remember...
07:41When it was different.
07:42When it was different.
07:43...Islan as a little girl.
07:44Oh yeah.
07:45I knew you guys would be together forever. I'm so proud of you. With everything. I mean, anything you do.
07:54What I love about Islan is the way he cares for people and that he loves.
08:01She respects me for who I am, so I don't have to pretend or I can just be me.
08:07One word.
08:08Oh my goodness.
08:08Tell me what you love doing most of you know.
08:13I can't say what I want to say.
08:21Her heart. I think she's really helped me embrace who I am.
08:27Our relationship works because we're real.
08:30What I would say to people that judge our relationship is,
08:33you wish you had a relationship like this.
08:35You could learn something from us.
08:46We'll be right back and learnven.
08:48A whole committee championships in the bathroom,
08:48were clear that some evenings don't ease all the way up,
08:49but thanks for taking on and seeing you and with whom I am taking off the cafe on.
08:52Listen to yourself.
